Body image, it’s something that we all struggle with at one time or another for various reasons. When we are teenagers, perhaps going through our ‘awkward’ growth stage, trying to find our own sense of style, we compare ourselves to our friends and to celebrities. As we age, we notice changes in the way our clothes fit, or the way we feel physically, sometimes comparing ourselves to how we looked years ago – a side by side comparison of before and after photos.
We ask ourselves: “Am I fat? Am I too thin? Is my hair too frizzy? Why am I so short? How come I don’t look like her? Are my teeth crooked? Do I look like I’m getting older?” (Even people on the thinner side sometimes feel self-conscious! It’s not all about being or thinking you’re a few pounds too pudgy).
Body image is not gender specific. Men have issues with it, too. Some men wish they had a six-pack, or were taller, or had more muscle, or they remember when they had more hair. These self-doubts are the kinds of things that don’t stop with maturity. Maturity is what can bring on body image concerns for many as they age.
The most important questions that we should be asking ourselves are: How do we come to terms with what we see? How do we mentally adapt to physical changes in ourselves as time goes on? How can we be grateful for the way we were made?
One thing to keep in mind as you admire someone else’s physique is that they too think about their thighs, or if their boobs are big enough. If it’s not that, they wonder if they are buff enough or if they can hold their own against a trim twenty-something. You are not alone. No one feels or looks “perfect” all of the time. Furthermore, the notion of being “perfect” is subjective! It’s the reason why we are all not attracted to the same type of person.
Our tendency to compare ourselves to others actually has its place, too. It’s what makes us care about our appearance; It’s what motivates us to eat healthier, get off our butts and exercise, dress better, put on some make-up, stand up straighter, and show our smile (Everyone looks better when they smile!). If we weren’t concerned with the way we looked, or the way others perceive us, we could become apathetic in regards to the way we look.
Be thankful for your health! Having a healthy body, regardless of how buxom or built you are, is truly priceless and worthy of your appreciation. Many people would give anything to have not just better legs, but working legs; not just a bigger bosom, but one that is cancer free. It’s important to realize our own limitations and make self-improvements in healthy moderation. We can’t be walking Barbie and Ken dolls – what a visually boring world it would be then. Who wants MATTEL stamped on their tush anyway!
It’s not about others accepting us for the way we look; it’s about self-acceptance. Once we become confident that we are putting our best self forward, no matter how tall, thin, squishy, or svelte, there is no quality more attractive!
Thanks for the great support :)! Your REglam Team xx